Author: SHALOM JAPHET

Shalom Japhet is an overall resilient multitasker and strives for excellence. She is an Online Marketing Expert, Christian Motivational Speaker, a Triad Blogger, Content Creator, Copywriter, Chef @myafricancuisineuk, an international student ambassador, a Research-Student currently completing a Master's Degree Program in Public Health at the University of Wolverhampton, United Kingdom. She is a brilliant, compassionate, dedicated, determined, focused, hardworking, respectful young lady, and above all a profound lover of God, his ministry and committed to his service, using her gift to impact lives globally. She has spent her time harnessing skills, and now she is multiskilled in Leadership, Management, Problem-Solving, Emotional Intelligence, Communication and Service. Her Hobbies known to few include Cooking, Listening to Music, Watching Movies and Designing.
Absent Fatherhood Series

Authority Without Presence Breeds Resentment

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Children don’t just respect titles; they respect availability. They may obey a title for a while, but what shapes their hearts is presence. Time. Consistency. Safety. The quiet knowing that someone will show up not just to correct them, but to know them. A father who demands obedience without relationship creates fear, not honor. And fear is a poor foundation for love.In childhood, fear can look like respect. The child stays quiet. Listens quickly. Falls in line. But what we often fail to see is what’s happening underneath. The questions they’re afraid to ask. The emotions they learn to hide. The parts of themselves they slowly shut down just to survive the environment. Authority without presence teaches children compliance, not connection. It tells them, “Do as I say, not because you trust me but because I have power over you.” And power without warmth always wounds.

Psychosocial Health Series, Public Health Affairs

It’s that 🕰️ of the month 🩸🫠

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I feel exhausted with multiple emotions raining down on me but I want to talk to you, about something many of us have been taught to endure in silence: period cramps. Dysmenorrhea. A medical word that still doesn’t fully capture the reality of what it feels like to live with this kind of pain, especially… Continue reading It’s that 🕰️ of the month 🩸🫠

Absent Fatherhood Series

The Silent Burden on the Wife

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A woman doesn’t just marry a man. She marries his unfinished upbringing. She marries what was nurtured and what was neglected. She marries the lessons he was taught and the ones he was never given language for. And often, she carries the weight of that silence. She endures emotional neglect disguised as “I’m not expressive.” Not because she needs constant words, but because connection requires presence. And absence “emotional absence” slowly teaches her to ask for less, to shrink her needs, to stop reaching. She navigates conflict avoidance masked as “I hate drama.” But avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace, instead it creates distance. So she learns to swallow conversations, postpone truth, and carry unresolved tension alone, while being told silence is maturity. She lives under authority without accountability. Leadership that demands respect but resists responsibility. Decisions made without dialogue. Power asserted without protection. And when things go wrong, the burden quietly shifts back onto her shoulders. She witnesses pride without protection. A man too proud to apologize, too proud to seek help, too proud to admit fault yet not present enough to shield her emotionally. She becomes strong not because she wanted to be, but because someone had to hold everything together. And when she finally speaks—when the weight becomes too much—she’s told she’s “too emotional.” That label hurts more than people realize.

Absent Fatherhood Series

Emotional Illiteracy in Men

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There is a quiet crisis many people don’t have the voice for and it shows up most clearly in our homes, our marriages, and our relationships. Let’s call it “Emotional Illiteracy” Emotional illiteracy in men isn’t about a lack of intelligence or strength. It’s about a lack of teaching. A lack of modeling. A lack of permission. Many under-fathered men were never taught how to name emotions. Not beyond angry, fine, or tired. No one sat them down and said, “What you’re feeling is disappointment,” or “That tightness in your chest is fear.” So feelings stayed locked inside, unnamed and unmanaged. They were never taught how to regulate anger only how to suppress it until it exploded, or express it through control, sarcasm, or intimidation. Apologies weren’t modeled either. Not the sincere kind that says, “I hurt you, and I take responsibility,” without excuses or deflection. And sitting with discomfort? That was never an option. Discomfort meant weakness. Vulnerability meant danger. So what happens instead? Silence becomes the language. Aggression becomes the shield. Withdrawal becomes self-protection. Dominance becomes a substitute for emotional safety. And often, the women in their lives pay the price… Sad!!!😔 But hey, is this a conversation you’d like us to continue? Join me at imotivateblog.co.uk Cheers!!!❤️

Absent Fatherhood Series

The Inheritance of Unhealed Wounds

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We often think inheritance is about money, land, or a last name. But some of the heaviest things we inherit are invisible. They don’t come wrapped or announced. They show up as patterns. Reactions. Silences. Emotional gaps we can’t quite explain. An absent father doesn’t just leave a gap; he leaves patterns. Many men are raising children while still parenting their own inner child. Still trying to make sense of wounds they were never taught how to name, let alone heal. And without realizing it, they discipline from pain, love from fear, and lead from survival instead of wholeness. And this doesn’t stop with men. Women, too, inherit emotional burdens learning to over-function, to tolerate absence, to normalize neglect, to confuse endurance with strength. We learn what love looks like by watching what was modeled to us, even when that model was broken. Here’s the hard truth we don’t like to sit with: What you refuse to heal, you unknowingly hand over. But hey would you like to further get into this conversation with me.. find out more at imotivate.co.uk … Cheers

Absent Fatherhood Series

Fathers & Under-Fathered Sons

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I was watching a video on Instagram, it got me thinking and I was prompted to share this with you. The absence of a father in a son's lite, affects him greatly, and his son's wife who now has to endure an "under-fathered man" Mind you the absence I mean is not just physical absence.… Continue reading Fathers & Under-Fathered Sons

Christian Motivation, Leadership Series

Happy New Year 2026🎉🥳

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I’m back again, after a few weeks off. But hey I’ve been reflecting on what I could bring to you this year so let’s begin with this. As we step into a new year, I want to pause with you for a moment not to rush into resolutions or loud declarations, but to sit quietly… Continue reading Happy New Year 2026🎉🥳

Leadership Series, Public Health Affairs

The Quiet Battles of Managing Anxiety as a High Achiever

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For years, I chased gold stars. Perfect grades, leadership roles, prestigious awards, and certificates – you name it, I wanted it. On paper, I was thriving. But Inside? Now that's a different story. The relentless pursuit of excellence became a breeding ground for anxiety, a silent saboteur whispering doubts and fears. Maybe you recognize this… Continue reading The Quiet Battles of Managing Anxiety as a High Achiever

Leadership Series

When Life Hits the Reset Button

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Refocus on the Mission!!! Have you ever gotten so caught up doing everything that you forget why you even started? Yeah, that was me running around like a headless chicken, busy but not productive. I told myself I was “multitasking,” but deep down, I knew I was just distracted. Somewhere between helping others, chasing deadlines,… Continue reading When Life Hits the Reset Button