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My name is Agape Shalom B.Japhet , I decided to start this blog due to my passion in writing to inspire and motivate friends and family. You visiting this blog is not by mistake, take a quick look at what might interest you and catch you attention. I write not just to excite you but to tell you deep truths on what’s happening in our daily life.
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Friendship is not threatened by honest criticism. It is strengthened. — Charles Swindoll “It takes a grinding wheel to sharpen a blade, and so one person sharpens the character of another.”
Proverbs 27:17 This simply illustrates that we need each other in this world, one can’t do without the other, a man can be selling something but needs a buyer that is someone else to buy the item he sells and both parties enjoy satisfaction. No one in this life is an island. We have been created to multiply to grow and be a community. In my next post I’ll continue on how a community ought to work. We are individuals that multiply to make up a community that help each other grow. God did not place us here on earth to be alone, when he created Adam in the beginning, he said to him, it’s not good for you to be alone, I will give you a helper, then Eve came into the chapter, and from her a generation was born.
- The Difference Between a Provider and a Father
Let me say something about this real quick because this distinction matters more than we admit.
A provider pays bills.
A father builds people.
And while both are important, they are not the same.
Money keeps the lights on. It puts food on the table. It funds survival. And yes, provision matters no child thrives in constant lack. But provision alone does not raise a child.
Presence does.
A father’s presence builds things money never can.
It builds confidence the quiet assurance that someone believes in you before the world ever does. The kind of confidence that comes from being seen, affirmed, and guided, not just financially supported.
It builds identity, a sense of who you are and where you belong. Children learn themselves in the mirror of their parents’ attention. When a father is emotionally present, a child doesn’t have to search for worth in unsafe places.
It builds a moral compass not through lectures, but through example. Through watching how a man handles conflict, speaks to their mother, takes responsibility, and lives with integrity when no one is watching.
It builds emotional safety the freedom to ask questions, make mistakes, express emotions, and still feel secure in love.
Safety that says, “You don’t have to earn my affection. You already have it.”
Here’s the truth many people avoid: you can recover from poverty.
You don’t easily recover from emotional abandonment.
A child who grew up with little but felt loved, protected, and guided often finds a way forward.
But a child who had their needs met materially while being emotionally neglected often carries invisible wounds into adulthood struggling with trust, self-worth, and connection.
And let me be clear this is not an attack on hardworking men. Many fathers provided the only way they knew how. They did what they were taught. They repeated what they saw. But intention does not erase impact.
Being a father requires more than a paycheck.
It requires availability. Engagement. Emotional courage.
It means coming home not just physically, but emotionally. It means choosing connection even when you’re tired. It means realizing that your presence is not optional it is formative.
Children don’t remember how much you earned.
They remember how safe they felt with you.
How often you listened.
How you showed up when it mattered.
And if you’re a man reading this, know this: it’s never too late to shift from being just a provider to becoming a father in the fullest sense. Repair is powerful.
Presence can still heal.
And building people is a legacy money can never replace.
Because in the end, survival raises bodies.
But presence raises souls.
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- Authority Without Presence Breeds Resentment
Children don’t just respect titles; they respect availability.
They may obey a title for a while, but what shapes their hearts is presence. Time. Consistency. Safety. The quiet knowing that someone will show up not just to correct them, but to know them.
A father who demands obedience without relationship creates fear, not honor. And fear is a poor foundation for love.
In childhood, fear can look like respect.
The child stays quiet. Listens quickly. Falls in line.
But what we often fail to see is what’s happening underneath. The questions they’re afraid to ask.
The emotions they learn to hide. The parts of themselves they slowly shut down just to survive the environment.
Authority without presence teaches children compliance, not connection. It tells them, “Do as I say, not because you trust me but because I have power over you.”
And power without warmth always wounds.
Presence means knowing your child’s world.
It means listening even when you’re tired.
It means discipline wrapped in relationship, not humiliation.
It means correction that doesn’t crush curiosity or silence emotions.
When presence is missing, authority becomes heavy.
It feels performative. Demanding. Unsafe.
And while children may submit outwardly, inwardly something else is growing which is “resentment”.
That resentment doesn’t always show up immediately.
Sometimes it waits. It matures quietly.
And one day, it shows up as distance. As bitterness. As indifference. As an adult child who no longer reaches out not because they don’t care, but because they learned long ago that connection was conditional.
Honor cannot be forced.
Respect cannot be commanded.
They are earned through relationship.
And this truth isn’t just about fathers, it’s about leadership in any form. In homes, in marriages, in ministries.
Authority without presence always damages trust. Always.
If you want to be honored, be accessible.
If you want respect, be consistent.
If you want influence, be involved.
Presence says, “I see you.”
Authority without it says, “I control you.”
And control may win behaviour but it loses hearts.
If you’re a parent reading this, let this be an invitation not to guilt, but to awareness.
It’s never too late to soften. To listen. To repair.
Children don’t need perfect parents. They need present ones.
And if you’re an adult still carrying the weight of a childhood shaped by fear instead of affection your pain makes sense.
What you longed for was not rebellion. It was relationship.
True authority serves.
True leadership protects.
And true fatherhood is proven not by how loudly obedience is demanded but by how safely love is offered.
***To be continued…***
Oh Hi again Bestie…🤗 If you’re just seeing my post for the first time, I’m sending you virtual hugs.
I recently published a book titled BROKEN PIECES OF ME, filled with unfiltered truths about life, which I think would resonate with you. Hope you enjoyed this post?
Your support means the world to me…Click Here.
Thank you for cheering me on, please know that I really sincerely appreciate it🥺🫶🏾
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