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My name is Agape Shalom B.Japhet , I decided to start this blog due to my passion in writing to inspire and motivate friends and family. You visiting this blog is not by mistake, take a quick look at what might interest you and catch you attention. I write not just to excite you but to tell you deep truths on what’s happening in our daily life.
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Friendship is not threatened by honest criticism. It is strengthened. — Charles Swindoll “It takes a grinding wheel to sharpen a blade, and so one person sharpens the character of another.”
Proverbs 27:17 This simply illustrates that we need each other in this world, one can’t do without the other, a man can be selling something but needs a buyer that is someone else to buy the item he sells and both parties enjoy satisfaction. No one in this life is an island. We have been created to multiply to grow and be a community. In my next post I’ll continue on how a community ought to work. We are individuals that multiply to make up a community that help each other grow. God did not place us here on earth to be alone, when he created Adam in the beginning, he said to him, it’s not good for you to be alone, I will give you a helper, then Eve came into the chapter, and from her a generation was born.
- Kindness Is a Privilege, Not an Entitlement
There’s a lesson life teaches you quietly, sometimes painfully, and often repeatedly until it finally sinks in: people can get too comfortable with your kindness and forget it’s actually a privilege.
Not a right. Not an entitlement. A privilege.
This is coming from a place of experience, not bitterness.
Someone once randomly waltzed into my life no invitation, no clear intention and I welcomed them anyway. I showed kindness without calculation.
I was patient when I could have walked away. I was understanding when silence would have been easier.
I helped when I didn’t have to. I gave grace freely, because that’s who I am. That’s how I love. That’s how I live.
But here’s the hard truth I had to face: it was one-sided.
While I was pouring, they were consuming.
While I was considering their feelings, they were careless with mine.
While I was showing up, they were simply showing up when it was convenient.
And for a while, I excused it.
I told myself, “Be patient. Be kind. Be Christ-like.”
But kindness without boundaries slowly becomes self-neglect.
Even scripture speaks clearly about this.
The Bible reminds us that faith without works is dead (James 2:17). Love, too, is not just words but it’s action.
If someone consistently benefits from your presence but never reciprocates respect, effort, or consideration, that’s not love. That’s usage.
And God never calls us to be doormats in the name of love.
There’s also wisdom in Matthew 7:6 about not giving what is holy to those who do not value it. That verse hit me deeply.
Because not everyone deserves access to your heart, your time, or your emotional labor especially if they mishandle it repeatedly.
I’ve learned now that being kind does not mean being endlessly available.
Being patient does not mean tolerating disrespect.
Being understanding does not mean ignoring patterns.
You can have a soft heart and still draw firm lines.
So yes, I know better now.
I still choose kindness but with discernment.
I still show love but with clear boundaries. I still help but not at the cost of my peace.
Because the right people will never make you feel guilty for expecting effort, respect, and mutual care.
If you’re reading this and it feels personal, maybe it’s meant to be.
Protect your heart.
Guard your energy.
And remember: your kindness is valuable.
Treat it that way, and expect others to do the same.
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- The Cost of “I Didn’t Know Better”
“I didn’t know better” can explain behavior, but it doesn’t erase impact. It may give context, but it does not undo the damage.
And at some point, we have to stop using ignorance as a shelter and start seeing it for what it becomes in adulthood…
a choice.
There is a season in life where not knowing is understandable. Childhood. Adolescence. Early survival.
But adulthood introduces responsibility. And with responsibility comes accountability.
At some point, growth becomes a moral obligation.
Because when you know you’re hurting people and choose not to change that’s no longer ignorance. That’s refusal.
Many people cling to “I didn’t know better” because it feels safer than facing the pain they caused.
Safer than sitting with guilt. Safer than admitting, “I should have done more.”
But healing doesn’t begin with comfort. It begins with truth.
At some point, adulthood asks more of us.
It asks us to go to therapy even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it exposes wounds we buried deep to survive.
It asks us to learn emotional skills how to communicate, how to regulate anger, how to listen without defensiveness, how to apologize sincerely.
It asks us to break cycles not just name them, but actively dismantle them.
Not just say “This is how I was raised,” but decide, “This is not how I will continue.”
It asks us to apologize without justifying, without minimizing, without shifting the blame.
And ultimately, it asks us to do better.
Your children should not pay the price for your refusal to grow.
They should not carry wounds that could have been healed if you chose humility over pride.
They should not spend adulthood unlearning what you could have addressed with courage.
Ignorance may explain how the damage started.
But accountability determines whether it continues.
And let me say this;
growth does not mean perfection.
It means effort. It means repair. It means choosing responsibility even when it exposes your limitations.
If you’re reading this and feeling convicted not condemned good. Conviction invites change. Shame paralyzes it.
It is never too late to grow.
But it is dangerous to pretend growth is optional.
We owe it to ourselves.
We owe it to our children.
We owe it to the generations watching what we choose to do with the truth we now have.
Because healing delayed becomes harm repeated.
And “I didn’t know better” should never become the legacy you leave behind.
Oh Hi again Bestie…🤗 If you’re just seeing my post for the first time, I’m sending you virtual hugs.
I recently published a book titled BROKEN PIECES OF ME, filled with unfiltered truths about life, which I think would resonate with you. Hope you enjoyed this post?
Your support means the world to me…Click Here.
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