There’s a lesson life teaches you quietly, sometimes painfully, and often repeatedly until it finally sinks in: people can get too comfortable with your kindness and forget it’s actually a privilege. Not a right. Not an entitlement. A privilege. This is coming from a place of experience, not bitterness. Someone once randomly waltzed into my… Continue reading Kindness Is a Privilege, Not an Entitlement
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The Inheritance of Unhealed Wounds
We often think inheritance is about money, land, or a last name. But some of the heaviest things we inherit are invisible. They don’t come wrapped or announced. They show up as patterns. Reactions. Silences. Emotional gaps we can’t quite explain. An absent father doesn’t just leave a gap; he leaves patterns. Many men are raising children while still parenting their own inner child. Still trying to make sense of wounds they were never taught how to name, let alone heal. And without realizing it, they discipline from pain, love from fear, and lead from survival instead of wholeness. And this doesn’t stop with men. Women, too, inherit emotional burdens learning to over-function, to tolerate absence, to normalize neglect, to confuse endurance with strength. We learn what love looks like by watching what was modeled to us, even when that model was broken. Here’s the hard truth we don’t like to sit with: What you refuse to heal, you unknowingly hand over. But hey would you like to further get into this conversation with me.. find out more at imotivate.co.uk … Cheers
Happy New Year 2026🎉🥳
I’m back again, after a few weeks off. But hey I’ve been reflecting on what I could bring to you this year so let’s begin with this. As we step into a new year, I want to pause with you for a moment not to rush into resolutions or loud declarations, but to sit quietly… Continue reading Happy New Year 2026🎉🥳
Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman Scorned…
You’ve probably heard the phrase “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” It basically means: when a woman feels betrayed or deeply hurt especially in love her anger can be like wildfire. I once heard a story about a lady named Maya. She loved her boyfriend with everything time, trust, support, all of it.… Continue reading Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman Scorned…
The Day I Finally Chose Me And Didn’t Apologize for It…
They say “self-care isn’t selfish”… But try telling that to a people-pleaser wrapped in a ‘nice girl’ robe, Serving smiles while silently screaming inside. Oh yes, I was that girl—Little Miss Available, Little Miss Understanding, Miss “don’t worry, I’m fine” …even when I was clearly one text away from a breakdown. Then one day, snap.… Continue reading The Day I Finally Chose Me And Didn’t Apologize for It…
Choosing Growth Over Comfort
When is the last time you took a risk? How did it work out? — My Leap From Safe to Stretch ….. Comfort and I? Oh, we go way back. I mean, who doesn’t like soft beds, predictable routines, and that cozy “I know what I’m doing” vibe? But there I was, emotionally wrapped in… Continue reading Choosing Growth Over Comfort
Strategies I Use to Cope with Negative Feelings.
What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings? What can I say? Negative feelings? Huh…Oh, how these lowly uninvited guests just decided to show up at the most inconvenient times, like stress knocking at my door at 2 AM or frustration waltzing in when my to-do list is longer than a banking queue.… Continue reading Strategies I Use to Cope with Negative Feelings.
Masking the Pain
We smile, inside we are broken. Why do we hide our struggles? How long can you hide what’s hurting you the most? When Anna came home from university, everything seemed fine on the surface. She smiled, went to church, and did everything her family expected her to do. But inside, a storm was brewing. Her… Continue reading Masking the Pain
