There is a quiet crisis many people don’t have the voice for and it shows up most clearly in our homes, our marriages, and our relationships. Let’s call it “Emotional Illiteracy” Emotional illiteracy in men isn’t about a lack of intelligence or strength. It’s about a lack of teaching. A lack of modeling. A lack of permission. Many under-fathered men were never taught how to name emotions. Not beyond angry, fine, or tired. No one sat them down and said, “What you’re feeling is disappointment,” or “That tightness in your chest is fear.” So feelings stayed locked inside, unnamed and unmanaged. They were never taught how to regulate anger only how to suppress it until it exploded, or express it through control, sarcasm, or intimidation. Apologies weren’t modeled either. Not the sincere kind that says, “I hurt you, and I take responsibility,” without excuses or deflection. And sitting with discomfort? That was never an option. Discomfort meant weakness. Vulnerability meant danger. So what happens instead? Silence becomes the language. Aggression becomes the shield. Withdrawal becomes self-protection. Dominance becomes a substitute for emotional safety. And often, the women in their lives pay the price… Sad!!!😔 But hey, is this a conversation you’d like us to continue? Join me at imotivateblog.co.uk Cheers!!!❤️
