My Take on Who to Leave Behind (A Review of Pooja’s Insights)…
I recently stumbled upon a post by Pooja over at Life’s Fine Whine titled “Types of People You Should Avoid in Your Twenties,” and honestly? It felt like a deep exhale. As someone who advocates for psychosocial health and intentional living on this blog and this space, seeing someone break down the “social clutter” we collect in our youth is so refreshing.
Pooja is mentioned that she’s nearing thirty, and her reflections on the types of characters that drain our energy are spot on.
Here’s my take on why her list is an essential read for anyone trying to protect their peace.
The Drain of the “Me, Me, Me’s”
We’ve all had that one friend who treats your life like a commercial break for their own show. Pooja highlights how these people lack the capacity to take you into consideration.
From a mental health perspective, these one-sided dynamics are exhausting. If a relationship doesn’t have “reciprocity,” it isn’t a connection, it’s simply a project.
In your twenties, you’re building your foundation and you don’t have the bricks to spare for someone else’s ego.
The Danger of “Faux Type B’s”
This was my favorite part of her post. We often excuse laziness or lack of accountability as “being easy-going.” But Pooja calls it what it is: weaponized incompetence.
Avoiding these people is an act of self-care. When you surround yourself with people who refuse to pull their weight, you end up carrying the stress of two lives while only living one.
The Non-Negotiable: Avoiding Narcissists
Pooja speaks from experience here, and her warning is loud and clear: Run. Narcissistic abuse can cause wounds that take a lifetime to heal. In the context of overcoming adult loneliness, we sometimes settle for toxic people just to feel “chosen.” But as this post reminds us, being alone is infinitely better than being erased by a narcissist.
My Final Thoughts
Pooja’s post is a gritty, honest reminder that our twenties are for curated growth, not just accidental gathering.
It’s about learning that “no” is a full sentence and that your social circle directly impacts your psychosocial wellbeing.
If you’re seeing red flags, don’t wait for them to turn green cause they won’t.
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What about you? Have you encountered a “Faux Type B” or a “Pick Me” recently? How did you handle it? Let’s talk about it in the comments.
Check out Pooja’s full post here: Types of People You Should Avoid in Your Twenties
It was a beautiful read.